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Happiness Isn’t Something You Can Get

It’s not our partner’s job or our parents’ job to make us happy. Arguably, it’s not their job to make us unhappy. We must realize that happiness is up to us. Don’t waste time waiting to get happiness. It’s something we have to create and build. It takes some effort. Getting happiness from someone else won’t give you lasting happiness. It won’t make you Independently Happy. Happiness isn’t something you can get.

Awesome images by Skitterphoto at Pixabay.com

Awesome images by Skitterphoto at Pixabay.com

This is the second of nine posts in my How to Be Happy series. To start from the beginning, check out Happiness Isn’t Something Can You Find.

Getting Happiness

Do you know anyone who just isn’t happy unless she has a boyfriend? Or, you know, whatever type of friend they prefer? Or that person who blames their spouse, because the spouse doesn’t make them happy? Or blames their parents for not making them happy?

There is no getting Happiness. Happiness takes some effort.

What do you think about that Plato?

Getting Happiness

Getting happiness from someone else won’t give you lasting happiness. It won’t make you Independently Happy. Happiness isn’t something you can get.

Let’s not dogpile Plato for the sexist language. He meant all genders, biological and identity. He died before trending Tweets could enlighten him.

Do you know somebody who’s miserable because they hate their job and they won’t do anything for themselves because they’re job makes them too depressed to have the energy to search for another job or start a business?

I’m going to say that I don’t know anybody like that just in case that person happens to stumble across this blog or click any of the links I send. No, I’m not talking about you. I’m making a low-key reference to this obscure book I read that’s only printed in Spanish that my wife’s cousin told me about.

Do Happiness

Do you know anyone who’s miserable because of their health and appearance but won’t do anything about it because … Actually, I have no clue why on this one. Also, I don’t know anybody like this.

There is no getting happiness.

Don’t wait around for that special person to come around and give you happiness or make you happy.  That’s not how Happiness works, Finn.

Okay, I can’t resist.

Have you checked out Do Happiness yet?

We Are Not Entitled to Happiness

Yes, gratitude and mindfulness are vital ingredients. They’re like the chocolate in chocolate milk. Finding appreciation and gratitude for what you have right now might take some effort, but that’s the point. It helps us not take things for granted and most importantly helps us not develop a sense of entitlement.

But you also need the milk.

If you want to be happy, the first step is to realize it’s on you to develop it (build it, create it) that Your happiness is Your responsibility.

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What do you think? Can anyone give you happiness? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

Check out the third chapter in my How to Be Happy series: Happiness Isn’t Something You Can Give.

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