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How to Do What You Don’t Want to Do

I’ll ask the obvious question first: Why would you want to do what you don’t want to do? Why even discuss doing what you don’t want to do? The answer is, quite simply, not that simple. If you’re feeling stuck and tired of procrastinating, this is how to do what you don’t want to do.

How to Do What You Don’t Want to Do

There are three kinds of What You Don’t Want to Do.

  1. I don’t want to do it because it’s boring.
  2. I don’t want to do it because I want to do something else.
  3. Something boring you have to do, so you can do something awesome.

Because boring

The first kind is the obvious kind. You don’t want to do things that bore you, that hurt, or are otherwise unpleasant to yourself or others.

So you never get to do the big, awesome things you want to do because you don’t want to do the boring, little things you have to do.

Because something else

Then there are the What You Don’t Want to Do because you want to do something else. These may be part of the third type. I’ll work that out later. This is opportunity cost. You don’t want to go for a walk because you want to knock out a few more episodes of “Breaking Bad.” You don’t want to eat salad because you want French fries. Economists call it Opportunity Costs.

You could just put French fries in your salad. Be sure and give me credit for that.

Think work

There’s that one job you can do that will really make some progress for you, but it is sooo boring. Or maybe it is soooo hard. So you do something else. You do something that maybe needs to be done, or maybe it makes you look and feel busy, but it’s definitely not hard.

Confession time:  This is what I did yesterday.

Or Working Out

How to Do What you Don't Want to Do

We know we need a strong core and strong shoulders, especially with all the typing on the computers.

Shoulder exercises are boring though. So we work on the biceps because we’ve got big sleeves to fill when we’d really look better and feel better if we’d go ahead and do that shoulder work.

Don’t even get me started on crunches…

So I can do something awesome!

Lastly, there is the complicated What You Don’t Want to Do. These are the things that you don’t want to do, but that you have to do in order to do something else that you want to do more than you don’t want to do the things you don’t want to do.

My kid said that sentence needs a period or something. Then after reading it aloud, she said it made sense. Go ahead and read it aloud. Your co-workers will think you’re a genius. Or report you to HR. Either way, you break the monotony.  Win-win-win.

If you want to finish a half marathon, you have to put in some miles every day or so for several months.

You want to cross the finish line, but you don’t want to run consistently.

You want to be thin and healthy, but you don’t want to buy, wash and eat vegetables and fruit. I know I don’t.

You want to be a best-selling author, but you don’t want to spend thousands of hours writing.

My first half marathon was in August in Texas. I started running in February but didn’t set my sites on 13.1 until around April.

For a couple months, I hopped out of bed at 5:00 am every day to get in my weekly miles. I had to get up at 4:00 am on weekends so that I could get in my long runs before the temperature reached the high 90s.

Granted, I love running, just not waking up at 4:00 am on weekends to run in 85-degree heat.

Imagination

When I didn’t want to run, I imagined myself crossing the finish line and getting the medal.

My daughter and had to complete hundreds of Taekwondo classes, tests and several hours of service just to qualify for the black belt test. The black belt test was four days of pain, sweat and tears. Not everybody bled.

I imagined my kid and me getting our black belts at the ceremony so many times and so intensely, I often thought I was already a black belt.

I thought I wanted the medals. I thought I wanted a belt. That changes when you get the medal or the belt though. Sure you’ve got the hardware or the cloth, but that’s just a thing you wear. Anyone can buy medals and belts online.

The Sweetness is what we became. I’m a half marathon finisher. My kid and I have black belts, but my kid and I are Black Belts.

It isn’t a How to. It’s a Why to

How you do what you don’t want to do is focus on why you do what you have to do to do what you want to do. It is why you do what you have to do to be what you want to be. Awkward sentences, but truth. I’ll break them down.

How you do what you don’t want to do is

focus on why

you do what you have to do

to do what you want to do.

and

It is why

you do what you have to do

to be what you want to be.

How do you do what you don’t want to do? Assuming you do. Please tell us. It will help.

Or what is something that you don’t want to do that you feel you should?

Please leave a comment.

Then go in Peace.

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