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Look Beyond Imperfections

Struggling with perfection is too easy. We get bombarded with images of perfection and feel inadequate when we do measure up. You could hire an airbrush artist to follow you around, or you could take Gerard Way’s advice and look beyond imperfections.

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Since we all love quotes (and since I’m curating hundreds of them for my Inspiring Happiness Quotes page), here are a few quotes and lyrics from former My Chemical Romance frontman Gerard Way.

Look Beyond Imperfections

Happiness shouldn’t depend on anything external. If you think you’ll be happy when you get something, become something, go somewhere or meet someone, you’ll be disappointed. You may enjoy some joy when get, become, go or meet what you think you need. That’s joy, not happiness.

“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

– Gerard Way

 

Happiness shouldn’t depend on anything external. If you think you’ll be happy when you get something, become something, go somewhere or meet someone, you’ll be disappointed. You may enjoy some joy when get, become, go or meet what you think you need. That’s joy, not happiness.

Joy fades, it waxes and wanes. Joy is phases of the moon. Happiness is the moon. Joy drifts in and out like the tide. Happiness is the ocean.

Joy is phases of the moon. Happiness is the moon. #Joy drifts in and out like the tide. #Happiness is the ocean. Click To Tweet

Don’t Wait for Perfection

look beyond imperfections

If someone wants to get in shape because they think they’ll love themselves more when they get in shape, it won’t work.

If they love themselves, people who are in shape don’t love themselves because they’re in shape.

They either don’t love themselves yet and they’re still trying to achieve some threshold of fitness or nutrition, or they’re in shape because they love themselves.

When someone offers them junk food, they love themselves too much to consume the junk. When they’re tempted to skip a workout, they love themselves too much to skip the workout.

They’re fit because they love themselves.

They’re healthy because they love themselves.

Yearning for perfection instead of embracing and loving your current state only holds you back. That resistance, that wanting something else or something more prevents joy. Worse, it also prevents contentment and thus prevents happiness.

Looking beyond imperfections–even embracing them–loving yourself before you get, go or meet, won’t bring joy. It also doesn’t prevent joy. But it makes you content, and contentment can bring you happiness.

Sure, you can still work to improve yourself.

Find the joy in the work, in doing the right thing. Don’t save happiness for the result.

Find the #joy in the work. Don't save #happiness for the result. Click To Tweet

 

Problems with Pursuing Perfection

Obviously not alliteration! Check out those three Ps.

Pursuing perfection erodes your self-esteem, causes you to procrastinate and drags your happiness down into the gutter like a creepy clown offering red balloons.

Nobody floats down there, Georgie!

Self-esteem

I’m sure their hearts are in the right place, but all those magazine, television and Instagram models showing you how perfect they are–and how perfect you could be too…

…IF…

Oh, IF.

…you buy their product.

It chips away at your self-esteem, though, seeing how you compare to them. The girl on the photo and the girl in the mirror look different, and different isn’t good.

Different is Beautiful

You’ve heard all the hype about diversity, right?  That’s because diversity is beautiful.

They want you to dislike yourself. They want to convince you that you’ll love yourself more (or at all) when you like the models in the picture. Perfection.

“Gravity don’t mean too much to me.
I’m who I’ve got to be.
These pigs are after me,
after you.”

– Gerard Way, from Gravity

 

Yes, they’re after you. Don’t let their fake, airbrushed pictures keep you from happiness.

Different is beautiful. Click To Tweet

Perfection Breeds Procrastination

Waiting for production causes procrastination. You don’t want to publish that article until it’s better, so you never finish and never move on to the next one.

You never play that new song for your friends because it’s not perfect yet.

The worst is when you don’t start better self-care because perfection keeps you from loving yourself yet.

Too self-helpie?

It’s not, and I’ll tell you why in a few more paragraphs.

Diversity is beautiful. Click To Tweet

Unhappiness

It’s a vicious circle.

Because you’re not as perfect as they are, you don’t love yourself enough yet start what you want to start. Since you never start, you never acquire whatever it is you think you need to love yourself more.

Procrastinating doing procrastinates happiness.

How to Embrace Imperfection.

Don’t Listen to Plato

Plato proposed the Theory of the Forms. He proposed that ultimate forms of reality existed to represent ideal concepts. Liberty has its perfect Form. Happiness has its perfect Form. Puppies have an ideal Form. Everything in existence has a perfect, ideal Form that everything strives to become.

Perfection.

The forms existed, but on a different plane or realm. Maybe Thor could find it with his new hammer. The forms didn’t really exist. They were just ideals. Forms were something to move toward in theory, but not a barrier to actual existence.

Forms’ perfection didn’t mean less perfect realities were less beautiful or worthy of appreciation and love. They’re just abstracts, concepts or ideas. Not real.

Forms were just a way to help philosophers have something to complain about.

We are real, which means we’re more beautiful.

We are real, which makes us better than the Forms.

Imperfection makes you better than perfect.

Love Yourself First

So love yourself first.

“You’ve got to make a choice
if the music drowns you out
and raise your voice
every single time they try and shut your mouth.”- Gerard Way, from Sing

 

You have to love yourself first. If you don’t think you can love yourself, do you want to love yourself? If you love yourself enough to want to love yourself more, then don’t you love yourself?

Did I just confuse yourself?

Don’t get spun up in the vicious circle. If you want to be healthier, love yourself enough to not put the junk food in your body. Don’t want to love yourself when you’re healthier. Love yourself enough now to not eat the junk food.

Love yourself enough now to take breaks, get up and walk around instead of sitting and working all day.

Look past the imperfections. Embrace the imperfections.

 

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