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4 Ways Politics Makes You (and Everyone Else) Miserable!

[I’m hesitant to post this one because so many get so worked up over politics. I’m new though. Time will eventually bury this post behind other posts by the time I’m Internet famous. Unless it goes viral. Then I’m in trouble. I have to post it though because I really believe that politics makes you miserable.] I learned to just not even participate in political discussions. Everyone just ends up offended, mad, frustrated, exasperated, dumbfounded, dumbstruck or just dumber.

Politics makes you miserable

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But never Dumbledore.

Nobody really wants to have a discussion; they just want to make sure you’re smart enough to believe the same thing they do.

General Observation: No one has ever been thankful to me for proving them wrong.

Politics is making us:

  • Too divided
  • Too negative
  • Too dependent and
  • Dumber

Individually and collectively, politics is making us miserable.

Politics is Dividing Us

Politics is ruining our relationships.

So there it is first. Politics is ruining our relationships. It’s driving wedges–not only between different races, religions and social classes–but between family and friends.

Do you have a relative or with whom you used to be close, but you no longer spend any time with them because all they ever talk about is politics? Or maybe because that person and you had a disagreement that led to a heated discussion. Is one or both of you still upset about it?

Do you want to know something sad?

The Candidates Love iI!

As long as they keep us divided amongst the two sides, their jobs are safer. Each side knows that as long as they’ve got the 30 percent or so on their side, their jobs are safe. That sounds like a conspiracy theory.

We, the real people, are left bickering in between. Let’s stop letting them do that to us.

Politics is Making Us Negative

The candidates would like for you to believe that…

  • the entire country is in a mess
  • our sovereignty won’t survive four years of the other party’s policies
  • we are on the verge of economic collapse
  • the air we breath will become unbreathable by the time your children graduate and
  • the water we drink will either run out or become undrinkable by the time Captain Marvel comes out.
  • the terrorists are taking over.
  • They’re sneaking over on drones. Oh, and by the way, the drones are taking over. AI. It’s basic science.

And only they can save us. Their plan, although it’s just a rehash of the last candidate’s plan, is the only way the world can be saved.

I’m Shayne Seymour and I approve this message. No, you don’t. No, I don’t. Okay, maybe the part about the drones.

Many of us buy into it. We’re scared that all those things and more are going to happen. It makes us negative and afraid.

Those are all concerns we need to address, but we’re not going to get anywhere if we allow the politicians to keep driving fear into our hearts and wedges between us.

Politics Makes You Dependent

The candidates and their followers want you to believe that your life is going to get bad–or worse without their help. Way too many people place way too much reliance on how much the president will affect their lives.

First of all, the president really doesn’t affect us much. Granted, our health care is still tethered to our employers, and we’re paying about five times as much as we used to for a lot less coverage, but it really hasn’t hurt us much. And if millions of people who didn’t have coverage before are covered now, that is awesome. Although, I fully admit that I’m really irked that the Act didn’t decouple health care and employment.

Yep, I’m human. Great. Way to spoil that!

The ACA didn’t break us or ruin our quality of life. Much. It just inspired me to work harder to make up for it.

Way too many need a certain side to get elected to support some reliance they have on the government. That’s a vicious circle for all of us. In my opinion, encouraging or causing someone to be dependent on someone else is just cruel.

I’m all for helping someone who needs it, but do you know what dependence leads to? Hint:  it’s not Happiness. See the banner up there? It’s called Independently Happy because it doesn’t depend on the kindness or competence of others. It’s Independent.

Happiness isn’t something you can get.

Happiness is earned.

Since I brought it up, I don’t think I have to tell you what helping others can lead to. That’s right. More Happiness.

Hooray for happy!

Politics is Making Us Dumber

Too few of us even think much any more. Trending Tweets and Facebook ads are our only sources of research. We don’t look at history, numbers and trends. We’re too sucked into the drama and the soap opera that cable news networks use to fill all that time between commercials.

Tangent: I just found out from Grammar Girl a couple weeks ago that Star Wars is a “Space Opera.” So was Star Trek. Listen for yourself:

I just love Grammar Girl.

The Candidates don’t want us doing research. They want us excitable (they’ll even call it passion), upset at one another and retweeting passive-aggression.

Politics is Making Us Miserable

When your relationships are strained, if not broken… When you spend too much time dwelling on the negative, like how dumb your friends are and how much you don’t like your cousin any more because she supports that candidate that the internet site said is crook and racist… When you skim the surface of knowledge instead of dive deep into it… When any or all of those things happen, what you get is less happy.

You start edging your way towards misery.

The Solution

Gratitude and appreciation.

Be grateful that we live in a country where we are free to have opinions, even the ones that differ from yours.

Be appreciative of others’ opinions. Your opinion is just as dumb to them as theirs is to you. Be safe though. Be the one who did the research and thought it through. Don’t be the annoying, aggressive, name-calling bully.

Get your head out of your a–I mean politics. Do some research. Weigh the options. Exercise your right to vote. Post a picture of yourself with your “I voted” sticker on Facebook. Better yet, Tweet the pic and mention me @IndyHayHay.

Have some discussions and remember that it is perfectly okay–in fact, it’s preferable–for someone to disagree with you. It keeps us in check. No matter how dumb they are.

What’s that? You disagree? Well, I’d like to hear your side! Maybe I’ll learn something. Teach me! Please leave a comment below, and we can discuss this civilly. That’s what blogs are supposed to be for.

Or maybe I’ll just listen.

Thank you for reading and sharing!

Now go in peace.

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