Independently Happy

I take happiness seriously. So you don't have to.

Always Be Wrong


There is no upside to winning an argument.  We will build more Happiness if we try to always be wrong.  Have you ever won an argument and enjoyed it?  Probably not.  You probably ended the argument with both of you thinking the other is helplessly hard-headed and clueless and probably won’t speak to each other […]

Why Did I Procrastinate Writing?

I procrastinated for months.  Why?  I was going to have to power on a computer, opening some kind of word processing software, write stuff, save the file somewhere, edit it, post it, add links, edit it again, then start on the next topic. And don’t get me started on images! I bet the word processor […]

How Clutter Feels Like Extra Weight


Back when we were packing to move, two questions weighed on my mind.  [Pun intended.]  What are we going to eat this week? And how can we fit into a smaller house? Then the connection hit me.  Having too much stuff is just like carrying extra weight.  All that stuff and clutter is extra weight we […]

4 Ways Politics Makes You (and Everyone Else) Miserable!

[I’m hesitant to post this one because so many get so worked up over politics. I’m new though. Time will eventually bury this post behind other posts by the time I’m Internet famous. Unless it goes viral. Then I’m in trouble. I have to post it though because I really believe that politics makes you […]

Slip Sliding Away

Slip Sliding Away

This post is a little longer than usual. It will be like an Avengers movie though, and before you know it, you’ll be sad it’s over. I recently read Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy‘s new book, “Living Forward,” in which they describe how easy it is to drift through life. They teach us how to […]

A Blog Post About Blog Posts (and Why I’m Writing Them)

I love blogs about blogging. I think I’m really benefiting from the information. And it’s meta! I love writing. A couple weeks ago, I started getting up at 4:45am and going to Starbucks to write every day. Read here to see why I’m going to Starbucks to write. This early morning writing has worked really […]

Is It Okay to Disrespect the Disrespectful?

Today’s post is kinda fun.  It is kinda Dr. Seussy—word!–so you may want to read it twice.  Or more.I can’t remember what was going on when I wrote this, but someone was probably all over the news complaining that somebody disrespected them.  I wish I could remember, but based on the date of this file, […]

Doing vs. Being

While pondering “How to Do What You Don’t Want to Do,” I ended with doing what you don’t want to do, so that you can do things you want to do, or to become something you want to become. I couldn’t decide at the time which is more important, doing something awesome or being something […]

Doing vs. Outcome

I’ve been studying Happiness extensively the past few years. I’ve done this partially for myself, but also so I can help those around me who seem to find it increasingly difficult to maintain Happiness. At first, I wanted to prove/disprove the money can’t buy you Happiness claim. Next, I should research whether or not I […]

Up Early [Bonus Post]

Writing about Procrastination is fun! In my case, it is usually a fun way to procrastinate writing about something harder. Since part of my plan here at the IH is to show you just how much alike we are, I to like confess my not-having-it-all-togetherness. Looking through some old files, I found this gem. Since […]