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Doing vs. Being

Many gurus suggest we should focus on being instead of doing. Does Being pay the bills or accomplish goals? This is how to balance Doing vs. Being.

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Is it Better to Do or Better to Be?

While pondering “How to Do What You Don’t Want to Do,” I ended with doing what you don’t want to do so that you can do things you want to do, or to become something you want to become. I couldn’t decide at the time which is more important, doing something awesome or being something awesome.

Both contribute significantly to Happiness. I think I’m giving the edge to Doing over Being though.

When you do or become something awesome and new, it is definitely a big chunk of change in your Happiness account. Double meaning intended. You can’t stop there though. Although it contributes to your overall, long-term well-being, you can’t rest on the thrill of the individual accomplishments. The satisfaction from the individual acts eventually diminishes. You will need to keep doing.

The Case for Doing

In the case of doing, you can just do something else. You can do something similar or related, or something completely different, but you need to have that next thing to do in mind and don’t wait too long to get started on it. A rolling stone gathers no moss. Moss is worse than it sounds!

The Case for Being

In the case of Being, you have to up the Doing game. Now that you are something more, you have to do something more. You may have to help someone else become what you became. You may have to do something extra awesome to get the same utility—economics word for happiness—you used to get from something medium awesome.

Poor Awesome. So overused these days.

Being can create some more responsibilities for you. Although responsibilities can be inconvenient, meeting them does make deposits into your Happiness Account. It also might add a little to others’ accounts.

I’m at 270 words, so it’s time to draw a conclusion. Seriously count the words. 327 is the 327th word. Okay, okay, it’s a number. Technically.

Note: No doing, no being.

You have to do to be. You need both steps.

  1. Pick a couple of things you want to Be.
  2. Do the things you have to do to become what you want to Be.
  3. Be.

I just love saying “both steps,” then having three steps. He apparently also likes ordered lists.

Extra Credit: Mix in lots of things to Do for others!

Do for exercise.

Do for education and…

…do for FUN.


I’d appreciate you helping me out with this.

What do you think is a good mix of Doing and Being?

What are some etceteras you can think of that I can’t because my brain is fried from writing a couple of hours?

Now do in Peace.

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