Independently Happy

I take happiness seriously. So you don't have to.

What if You Try New Things?

Have you ever wanted to try something and didn’t? You were just too hesitant to put yourself out there and now regret it. The fear of trying new things robs from us the opportunity to really live. Variety is too important to not try new things. I’m not saying you have to, but what if you try new things?

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How About You?

  • Do you have an idea for a business, but just don’t think you’re good enough?
  • Do you just want to add a little adventure in your life, but you’re waiting for a better time?
  • Is there state or country you want to visit, but haven’t for some reason?

I’ve Tried a Few Things

If you’ve read A Brief History of Shayne, Part II, you know I’ve tried a few things.

I’ve done a little awesome. Looking at the list now, it looks like I’m bragging. I almost deleted the list below.

The simple matter is that I’ve always simply tried something new. After 20 years of just trying new things, you get a list like this:

  • I’ve reached the summits of a few mountains (even though I just wanted to go camping and eat s’mores)
  • finished a 100-mile bicycle race (after I finally let my friends talk me into it)
  • finished a few 13 to 15-mile runs (I really just wanted a medal)
  • basked in the Mediterranean (even though I wanted to stay in the city and eat tapas)
  • celebrated the Christmas party at Disney World (okay, I went willingly to this one)
  • When my friend took me to Multnomah Falls, I didn’t really want to go
  • published three Kindle books on Amazon
  • and my kid and I are both black belts in Taekwondo (I will never do that again! Okay, maybe.)


Most of those on their own would be a great big ‘Meh.’ When you put them all in one place like that, though, it look pretty impressive!

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I Didn’t Have to Do Any of It

Nobody made me. Those are all things somebody suggested I try.

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A friend said, “You should come hiking with us. It’s awesome.”

The same friend said, “You should get a bike. It’s awesome.”

I could have said, “no,” but I didn’t.

Somebody asked, and I gave each one a try.

Except for hockey. I played hockey pretty much uninvited.


(That’s not my bike. I just love the picture.)

I waffled on each invitation. I had several reasons not to do any of them. They took time and money. Some of them took lots of training. Some required going a long time without a day off from the day job.

Until I Just Tried

When my friend Doug asked me to try the Atkins diet with him, so he could slim down for his wedding.

I couldn’t think of a single reason why I wanted to do that.

I tried it though. I actually did Sugar Busters. We were both really strict. He lost the weight he wanted, and I returned from being in the worst shape of my life.


This is your Shayne on carbs.

I mean, look at me.

So up front (ish), I want to say that you don’t have to do anything I suggest. All these things I write are just ideas I come up with for ways to increase awesome because the thing about awesome is (coming soon)…

I strongly encourage you to try too.

I want you to try to try too.

Whether it’s something here, from my attempts to escape the less-than-awesome-for-me or just some wild idea your buddy or your wife has. As long as it’s legal and doesn’t hurt anybody. Yeah, I’ve had a few friends like that. 

Until I Tried Not Try New Things

For some reason, a few years ago, we got cheap. We went a few years without trying anything new. We were just saving money. We had a lot of medical bills.

Our happiness waned. Not all at once, it just grew a little bland without ever adding any spice.

Do we regret that time of not trying new things? No. We had accumulated a lot of debt trying maybe too many new things. We took that time to pay off the debt and medical bills.

I guess you could say we tried living debt free. Then we tried a little debt again.

Nobody ever asked me, “what if you try new things?” and now I ask myself,

What About Yoda?

Yeah, yeah. I know what Yoda said.

“Do or Do Not. There is no Try.”

Yoda was training a Jedi Knight. You and I aren’t training to be Jedi Knights. But don’t be surprised when I write something about a Happiness Jedi.

If you’re in Jedi training, then don’t try. Do.

If you’ve got a job to do, don’t say you going to try and half-ass it. Do it.

Otherwise, Yoda’s quote was cool and worked well in the movie, but it’s just a cool movie quote. It’s just semantics.

If you have an opportunity to experience a new experience, go ahead and try.

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What if You Hadn’t Tried?

I can’t think of a single thing I regret trying. Not even the things I failed or didn’t finish. Not even the trucking company and ISP from the 90s. Those were disasters. There are things that I regret not trying though. (Just had a thought! The Regret-O-Meter )

Don’t feel pressured to try any of these suggestions, but feel free to ask yourself, “What if I try?”

It will save you from having to say, “What if I had tried.”

Not every new thing to try out there is expensive. Live music and new cuisines can be as inexpensive as any other evening.

Is there anything you are thinking of trying but just haven’t for one reason or another? Let us know in the comments. Let’s encourage each other to give it a try.




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